because i was 13 the first time i was groped on a public place by a strange man. because i need to use the fingers of my both hands to count how many of my friends have been raped when the number should be zero. because some of these friends have thought it’s their fault and thought they wouldn’t be taken seriously if they reported it. because women face sexual harrassment daily. because when i go to the corner pub alone i’m nervous because sooner or later i’m going to be asked why a young woman is there alone, when i just want to read my book in peace. because my kid brother got picked on at school because his “ass was feminine” and caused him such anxiety he started to wear clothes many sizes too big for him to avoid the ridicule. because a male friend of mine feels inadequate because he’s not “tall enough for a man” and another one because he’s not “strong enough for a man”. because i know many women who have felt they are not small, thin or pretty enough for a woman. because friends of mine have to face threat of violence because of their gender identity. because i’m afraid to hold hands with my girlfriend when we’re abroad. because of the tears of rage in my mother’s eyes when she told me that rape in marriage wasn’t a crime in finland til the 1990s. because my girlfriend got shamed and accused at the police station when she reported a man trying to rape her. because women’s euro has been only around 80 cents for the past 20 years. because sex is still mainly considered as something women give and men get. because when boys picked on me when i was a kid i was told that they just like me, as i should consider bullying by boys as a sign of affection. because a guy in my health ed class in 8th grade stated that when on perioud women should just stick something in their cunts and shut up about it. because when i was 15 a male “friend” told me i shouldn’t call myself a female/a woman before i have had sex with a man (i’m 23, still haven’t, and i think i am a woman without the magical touch of a male penis thanks). because other women and i feel like we should be careful, hide and take precautions not to be fucking harrassed or raped. because we are taught how not to get raped when everyone should be taught not to rape. because i want equality and freedom for all genders and sexualities. because i aknowledge the patriarchy that by defining us oppresses and cages us, and i am not fucking happy about it.